Young and rebellious. If you think about it, are millenials the only generation who rebel against their parents? Absolutely untrue. Previous generations have also been rebellious and caused great disruption to the fine Eastern culture of civil order.
As someone born in the 80s, the education system brought me up to be bilingual. I am grateful for that. I look at many of my peers and their parents, they are unable to speak or understand Mandarin, they are English speaking families. They have already been left out of the loop when it comes to classic Confucian morals and Chinese code of conduct. So if any of you have to rebel against these types, you should not resent Chinese culture because these parents have no such traditional Chinese upbringing.
The fact that pop trends causes people to neglect many important things means that our predecessors often leave out important skills and concepts causing us some trouble. The blame game will never end. It is the same for Chinese social culture.
Some of you may find your parents to be rebellious against your grandparents. Truth be told most parents never ever got over being rebellious to their grandparents, and even grandparents might be rebellious. Much of the time we find our grandparents having more upright values than our parents.
The Chinese speaking families are the opposite, they know traditional Chinese conduct and morals but do not know the whole picture like an imperial scholar will. They tend to 'cherry pick' the classics and make you uncomfortable with a poorly balanced approach. Much of them have accustomed to the ways their parents brought them up, but many were actually rebellious. Some grandparents may have started from totally uneducated peasant backgrounds working hard to raise a bunch of educated parents.
This is why as parents, early childhood parenting is very important. Lack of understanding, lack of participation in the child's early life will lead to unerasable resentment for the rest of the child's life. It is likely to cause the child to lose trust in people and lose hope in things. They will become individuals with hidden hurt who cannot connect with other people because their inner injury has not healed first.
Children learn by example. If you have resentment for your own parents, you should learn to let go or come to terms with it, while ensuring you do not neglect your children the same way. In a child's early years, their health, their education, their character development, their material comfort and social status all comes from the parents. Parents must be responsible for the child in the entire childhood, I'd say even until adulthood. Social status and family wealth directly affects the child's career in adulthood, blessings from the parents is that important.
There are several arts people who claim art is about being a rebel. They are rebellious. Art should not be improved, evolved or adapted from older original versions, instead they should be created from thin air. It is possible I know and believe, but it is a waste to just discard the works and concepts of previous artists. There are many artists who think they have successfully liberated themselves from Chinese culture and Chinese identity as their art looks nothing like classical Chinese art. However, their art still end up as product of Western concepts, produced by ethnically Chinese person.
Rebelliousness is a vicious cycle. It is an indicator that a person's inner spirit is empty, not centered, not sure of the purpose in life. A rebellious person lives another day just to make daddy mommy angry, or to show friends that he is just different. It will be a life of differences and little harmony. If it is common nationwide, then the country will be one of chaos instead of togetherness.
A centered, grounded person knows his purpose of life every day. His purpose is one of initiative, to be constructive, to make things better; it is positive. It is not reactive. Life lived to be passive, reactive and struggling in the shadow of people you resent, is miserable.